Romance is nice, but not necessary. What is needed is love.
Like DP and water. Dr. Pepper is nice, but not necessary. One only needs water for life.
This is the problem with teenagers. Love is confused with romance and romance with love. It is believed that without romance one is without love. Or one will yearn so much for romance that love is lost.
Love lives in life and relationships. Romance is but one form or flavor of this greater thing that is love.
So let us know that romance may be desired, but is never required.
hey, this is beautiful.
And so so true.
this is what i have always wanted to say but never known how to put into words.
Very true. It’s takes real wisdom to understand that.
I think the problem is that people typically associate love with good feelings (romance), when in fact love goes a lot deeper than that. Real love always has ups and downs, good days and bad days, or whatever. You may not always be happy with one you’re “in love” with; you may, in fact, be very upset at them. But that doesn’t mean you’re not in love. Love means you stick to that person no matter what happens between the two of you, or even to one of you, because it will surely affect the other. This is why any preacher asks both people about to married if they will be married to this person “for better or for worse” and “in sickness and in health”.
Let me repeat for emphasis: Love as we want to see it is always happy (romance). Romance is only a small part of love. If you’re in a relationship only for romance, that’s like breaking a dollar and only getting a nickel back. You’ll put in a lot more than you get out, and to me that just doesn’t seem worth it.
Now, I can’t say I’ve ever been in love, but I can say that I know that when one is in it for what it’s worth, for the whole deal, it is the greatest experience anyone could ever endure.
Sometimes, depending on the context, love doesn’t always mean “sticking together.” Sometimes love will be the driving force behind a separation. Consider the man who was cast out of the church in 1 Corinthians. Or consider a dating couple whose relationship may not be most glorifying to God and most edifying to them.
Love does not always mean “I’ll stick with you.” In fact, sometimes it leads to the opposite.